Najois

Yesterday, I had a great time talking to a friend.

Our conversation started tensed.
Yet, driven by true love and care for each other, we didn’t give up, and genuinely listened to each other.

We got how each of us have a different sense of reality. We got to open up and share what we felt, without the fear of the other one bailing out or cutting us out.

This was a true testament of a friendship we have created over years, where each of us feel safe to talk openly even if we might disagree or misunderstand each other.

In my book, relationships are not a rainbow, that you smoothly walk over and where you are always right. At least not the type of relationships that I aim for. They are hard work, knowing that I am not an easy person myself. And that we are each different. It can get muddy and hard. But honestly, true relationships are worthy of the effords over time to me.

Like Maya Angelou said: ” They bring rainbows in your clouds”.

I used to cut off people that caused me trouble and hurt me. Used to feel this wasn’t friendship. Used to think friendship won’t hurt. Probably it was a two-way street. But now, as I have taken off the romantic and disillusional side of human interaction, I have learnt that I need to make efforts if I want to have friends next to me.

And I also want friends that understand this and put in the work. No matter how hard it gets at times, we do not run away. And more importantly, we keep talking and listening.